You suspect or know you have been in a relationship with someone with high narcissistic traits. You have finally broken free. Or, have been discarded by them without a thought. You are confused, very anxious and worried you’re going crazy. Part of you is glad to be free, the other part desperately wants them back. You don’t know what has happened to you and feel lost. You want to find some peace from the difficult thoughts and feelings. But can’t seem to find it. If that’s you, you may want to consider narcissistic abuse therapy.
How can narcissistic abuse therapy help me?
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is very difficult. When it ends, you may feel very confused and not fully understand what you have been through. If you have arrived on this page, you probably know, or strongly suspect, your partner, or another person you are involved with, is highly narcissistic. You are probably struggling with low self-confidence, anxiety and possibly the impact of trauma with PTSD-like symptoms.
If you are not getting better after a few weeks or months have passed, then therapy may be a good option for you. Getting expert support will help you to understand what has happened to you and the symptoms you are experiencing. You are not going crazy, despite what the narcissist in your life might have told you. Therapy can help you to recover more quickly than on your own.
Expert narcissistic abuse therapy
If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, it is really important to find a psychotherapist who understands what you have been through. I have over 8 years experience of working with narcissistic abuse and helping people recover. I can assure you that with the right help, you can recover from this – and learn how to truly thrive.
Have I really experienced narcissistic abuse?
If you have been been in a relationship with someone who has high narcissistic traits, and possibly even has narcissistic personality disorder, you will know that it can make you question everything. During the relationship with the narcissist you will have been made to feel that everything was your fault and have your emotions and opinions invalidated. So, it’s no surprise that you are likely to wonder if you are right about your experience. However, if you have arrived on this page, it is likely that there is part of you that recognises what has happened was narcissistic abuse.
Make no mistake, being in a relationship with a narcissist is very, very difficult. Once it is over, it can leave people with high levels of anxiety and trauma and PTSD symptoms. By the end you left wondering where on earth the wonderfully charming, fun, kind person you first met has gone.
You have probably put up with very poor behaviour including lies and deceit. You have likely accepted, or made plenty of excuses. Perhaps they were very stressed, going through a lot at work, dealing with a ‘crazy’ ex, or having issues with their family. However, somewhere along the line, you have realised their treatment of you was not okay and that it has had a negative impact on you. Maybe it’s time for you to explore options for narcissistic abuse therapy.
If you are a very empathetic, kind and caring person, you are more likely to have given the narcissist many chances and be susceptible to their charm. This is not your fault, however it is now your responsibility to heal yourself and I can help you. It will be an important part of your recovery to recognise you have been abused and also that you can recover and rebuild your life.
If you are ready to supercharge your recovery from narcissistic abuse with therapy, please book a short, free consultation call where we can discuss whether I might be the right person for you. We can also look at whether online or in-person therapy will work best for you. You can complete the form below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will get back to you within 24 hours.
Are they a narcissist?
Narcissists are people who usually possess most or all of the following characteristics:
- Very charming (at first, or when they want to be!).
- A chronic need for others to admire them.
- A lack of empathy and compassion.
- An inflated sense of importance meaning they will exaggerate their achievements and talents and wants to be seen as ‘superior’.
- Believing they are special and exaggerates their links to high status people or institutions (e.g. OxBridge/Royalty/’Stars’).
- A strong sense of entitlement meaning they expect favourable treatment and that ‘normal’ rules don’t apply to them (from parking to paying taxes and obeying the law).
- Takes advantage of others (probably especially you).
- Behaving in an arrogant way in all areas of their life (though vulnerable narcissists may not do this, but they will make absolutely everything about them).
- Having fantasises about having unlimited power, success, beauty or fame (and they will try to create / show this off even if they don’t have it).
- Being envious of others / believing others are envious of them.
- Making everyone else in their life the source of their problems (it is never their fault).
It is important to realise that we that we all have some traits of narcissism and working with me will not be about focussing on the narcissist, rather it will be about helping you to recover.
What if I am still in a relationship with a narcissist?
It is important to be realistic about the type of relationship you can have with a narcissist and how much you will be able to improve your psychological health. However, you may need to keep a relationship with a narcissist, for example if you share children or are going through a divorce. The right counsellor can help you learn skills to communicate more effectively and set clear boundaries. This will make it less likely that the narcissist can continue to take advantage of you.
Please note: owing to my specialism supporting clients recovering from narcissistic abuse, I don’t work with people who have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder or who have very strong narcissistic traits.