This is a little bit of a cheat of a wellbeing wonder post, because the subject of it means that it will be short – but sweet, I hope.
Putting your tech away doesn’t need a grand gesture or to be for a long time (but the longer the better probably), but just connecting with the world and the people around us and focussing mindfully on where we are, rather than the information superhighway, does us all good sometimes.
So if you are reading this (and thank you!), put down your device, go and give someone a hug (anyone really but ideally someone you know) and have some tech-free time. It’s very good for your wellbeing.
Today’s wellbeing wonder of people is a very important one, especially given that loneliness is on the increase, particularly amongst older people and can be very detrimental to mental health.
Being around people who love and support you is important for many reasons, including good wellbeing. Positive relationships are one of the cornerstones of the PERMA model from Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology). His research suggests that pain centres in the brain are activated when we are lonely and, being the strong social creatures that we are, we flourish when we have strong, positive connections with others.
Unfortunately, not all relationships are positive. There are manipulative and unhealthy relationships. There are unfortunately some people in the world who are critical, snarky and judgemental. Being around these types of people and the negative energy that they consistently give off can be very draining and it’s very hard to avoid getting dragged into their negative whirlpool. While it’s not always possible to rid them from your life completely, spending less time with this type of person and setting appropriate, healthy boundaries can be a great first step (though they may well complain about this too!).
Instead, cultivating healthy relationships with people who are more positive and energising to be with can really make a difference to your levels of happiness on a day to day basis. I’m not talking about people who are without the full range of emotions we all have as humans, and of course we all have our difficult and down days, but those authentic people who are genuinely supportive of you and your goals in life. They may well challenge you (and that’s a good thing), but it’s likely to be in helpful and encouraging ways rather than the negative naysayers, who are of course often hiding behind their own fears and projecting them on to you.
As you spend more time with positive people, of course you become more positive too and that’s when relationships of many types can truly flourish. Whether it’s a friendship, work, family or romantic relationship you can support each other in many different ways, whether it’s simply having a cracking good laugh, helping each other through a tricky time or working out how you will conquer the world.
It’s a very beautiful thing and a real wellbeing wonder.
Today’s wellbeing wonder is a big one for me and has definitely changed my life. Every morning the first thing I do is meditate. Just for 10-15 minutes and it’s the best habit I have.
It’s not woo-woo, it’s science – honest! There is much evidence that meditation can have a significant impact on stress levels and actually changes the brain. The silicon valley set (in my spiritual Californian home) are all over meditation, understanding the many benefits it brings to introvert technology types and driven founders alike. It has certainly helped me to feel calmer and deal with life’s ups and downs and the feelings of anxiety that arise during stressful times.
Meditation is ridiculously simple and very hard at the same time! It’s like trying to tame a cute little puppy. Sometimes the mind is willing to be still and do as you ask and then just when you think you are making great progress, it refuses to come when its called and is causing mayhem all over the place. But you learn that both are ok. It’s all part of the process, and, as with exercise, consistent persistence is the key. Some days are easier than others, but all days can be meditation days.
The easiest way is to download an app. I used headspace for a long time and it’s a really great way to learn the basics and beyond. There are 10 free sessions and then £45 (or less if you have a friend who uses it and can give you a code) buys you access to more meditation packs than you can shake a stick at. It’s a beautifully simple app and Andy Puddicombe, the co-founder talks you through it. His ted talk is worth a watch too about the benefits of mindful meditation. Highly recommended and the woo-woo factor of headspace is low 🙂
There is also the Calm app, which again offers some meditation for free and has a variety of music and backgrounds to choose from. Birdsong or a crackling fire anyone? It features a lovely, soft and gentle female voice guiding you through and offers a good variety of meditations to try. Woo-woo factor is low to medium
I’ve recently been using insight timer, which gives lots of flexibility for whether you want to have a guided meditation (and there are lots to choose from) or just meditate by yourself with some timing guidance. I like it, although the quality of the guided meditations does vary a little (and there’s something ironic about getting annoyed because the meditation you’re listening to is a bit rubbish!). Woo-woo factor is medium to high depending on your choice of meditation! 🙂
There are also plenty of free guided meditations on YouTube and podcasts, so there are plenty to try.
You can of course forget about having a guided meditation and just simply meditate. Focussing on your breath is a good place to start or you can try a mindful bodyscan like this one I made for Mind Moose last week. Plenty of folks reporting that they found it relaxing and so have their children, so worth a go if you’re feeling a bit stressed!
I would say that you need to give meditation a try for at least a couple of weeks or ideally a month to see how you feel at the end. In my opinion, it really is worth 10 minutes of your day and a real wellbeing wonder.
Sleep is one of those things that when you’re getting enough of it, you don’t even notice it, but when there’s an issue with it (as any new parent will tell you), it can dominate your life.
There seems to be a little bit of conflicting evidence about how much sleep you need…is it 8 hours or 10 hours or is Maggie Thatcher’s 4 hour’s enough for the macho ‘super busy’ amongst us? Well, it depends on you and by the time you reach a certain age, you know how much sleep you need to make you function properly. There is even some thought that women need more sleep owing to the complexity of our brains 😉
For me personally, sleep has magical restorative powers like nothing else and one of the reasons most of us feel so good on and after holidays is the extra sleep and rest we allow ourselves; like the little afternoon naps…
You either love it or hate it and I’m a lover of a little afternoon nap. Indeed, I’ve got a little sunny napping corner in my house where it’s perfect to curl up for a 20 minute afternoon nap, but not quite comfortable enough to go for an all out sleep.
There’s plenty of evidence that an afternoon nap of around 20 minutes is great for your productivity and learning capacity. Winston Churchill apparently had an afternoon nap every day during the war, so if it’s good enough for Winston…!
Unfortunately sometimes sleep becomes an issue and most of us have times where we are struggling with sleep. This can often be due to something stressful or worrying that’s happening in our lives and a changed sleep pattern is often one of the first signs something’s not quite right. You might struggle to get to sleep, or have a consistently disturbed sleep, wake up super early every day or indeed be sleeping far more than usual.
What’s worked for me at times like these is going back to sleep basics and trying to accept that it’s a phase that will most likely pass. And of course, trying to deal with whatever it is that is stressing or worrying you if the most helpful thing, though sometimes that’s easier said than done. So what are the basics of a good night’s sleep?
You can read yesterday’s ‘wellbeing wonder’ post about exercise here.
This week is once again mental health awareness week (where has the last year gone?!). Last year, I posted a post a day for mental health awareness week and this year I thought I would again.
This year’s focus is ‘survive or thrive’. It’s a really good choice of topic as for many people even without a recognisable mental health problem, they are simply surviving in their life, rather than truly thriving. Often this is due to stress – work, family, financial (or sometimes all three) and there are many people using self-medicating habits to just get through the day or week, rather than truly living a life they love.
Learning to thrive is the cornerstone of positive psychology and something I’ve really been focussing on my own life in the past year and a half. It’s not always been plain sailing but it always makes a difference when I refocus on the things that matter and get back to the ‘wellbeing wonders’ that have helped me to live a life I truly love and thrive. I thought it might be helpful to share them with you as a good reminder to us all!
We all know that exercise is good for us. There is overwhelming evidence that exercise has a positive impact not just on our bodies, but our minds too; the NHS recommends it for mild depression and research is showing that the benefits to a range of cognitive functions can be significant.
I’ve always thought I was fairly active (walking lots with the dogs and walking around school as a teacher), but to be honest I was kidding myself a bit really and it wasn’t until I really stepped it up that I noticed a huge difference in my wellbeing (both mental and physical).
I started going to the gym most days and, alongside walking in the fresh air (hint: getting outside is also a wellbeing wonder!), it’s now my go-to stress-busting activity and an everyday priority. I work, sleep and feel so much better after my morning exercise and generally go about my day with a spring in my step.
I definitely underestimated the impact until I had to take a break from it due to ill health and could feel myself less able to deal with the daily stresses of life. It felt so good to be back to the gym and I’ve recently taken up ‘running’ (the couch to 5k app is great if you are thinking of doing the same).
The sense of achievement you feel over time is also great for your wellbeing and of course there are the social benefits too; I’ve made some gorgeous friends at the gym and my new ‘running buddies’ are such a lovely, encouraging bunch.
So, my tip is to find something you love to do, and if you don’t know what that is, then try different things until you do!
Today (and yesterday) are days in the calendar that I’ve come to know well. It was 4 years ago today that I glanced at my phone, got a sucker punch in my stomach and my world shifted.
The day before, the 3rd of March 2013, I’d been at Nottingham University and some attendees from Newcastle had been late as the trains were delayed due to a fatality. We all sympathised but little did I realise it was my lovely friend, Chris Allan.
In the days and weeks that followed those of us who knew Chris sought to understand the question that haunted us all – why. The guilt felt overwhelming at times; the thought that there must have been something more that I could have done, the horrible moments of realisation that at points he was trying to tell me something but just couldn’t.
His family were (and still are) amazing. It’s easy to see where Chris got his loving nature, kindness, empathy, family values and huge sense of fun from. Chris was a brilliant person to be around. Knowing him changed me and 4 years on the memories that I have are of laughter, laughter and more laughter, talking for hours about how we were revolutionise education and change the world for our children, listening to music (he wasn’t so keen on my disco hits, I loved his indie stuff and Neil Young will always have a special place in my heart) and also the bloody awful films he was always trying to make me watch.
4 years on I’m also grateful to him for cracking open my awareness (as a friend so eloquently put it) about suicide and mental health. It had been on the outside of my consciousness before but Chris’ death made me realise the importance of it and that suicide could happen to ‘people like us’. And sadly in the last 4 years I have known more people – though none as well as Chris – who have lost their place in the world so much that they think that death by suicide is the best or only way out. It’s a truly horrible national statistic that in 2015 6,188 people died as a result of suicide, with the suicide rate for men around 3 times higher than women. Thankfully, the shift that is happening in our society as a result of campaigns like Heads Together and the wonderful work by charities such as Mind, is making it more it more acceptable to talk about mental health, though the stigma still lingers stubbornly.
Chris’ death made me face up to my own mental health – and we all have it. It started me on a journey to understand more about the brain and how it works. I now have an MSc in Psychology and that, together with the huge numbers of books about mental health, wellbeing and happiness that I have read over the past 4 years, have made me realise that there is so much we can do to look after our own mental health. And yet, many of us don’t really even know what we should be doing, or indeed prioritise it. Chris’ death, my studies and other people in my life since, have illustrated to me too keenly the consequences of not prioritising our mental wellbeing.
So, I started to prioritise my own wellbeing and have ramped that up in the last year and a half after as a result of another tricky time and it has made a real difference to my life. I’ve started to talk much more about mental health and wellbeing to others and have met some incredible people who have become great friends as a result.
And I’ve become a bit more fearless. There’s nothing like death to make you realise the fragility and importance of life and so pretty much every day I push myself to do something that is outside my comfort zone. I’m challenging myself to execute my ideas, to make things happen and Mind Moose is a direct result, so thank you, Chris. We used to talk for hours cooking up creative education projects and he was always my biggest cheerleader, urging me to put things into action and believing in me when I didn’t always believe in myself. He was a very, very lovely man and 4 years on I’m so grateful for knowing him and the impact he’s had on my life. I wish he was still around.
Starting back at school after a long summer break can be a welcome return to routine for some children and their families. For others, it can be a difficult time, especially if your child is worried or anxious about going back to school. Here are some tips to help ease your child (and you!) back to school.
It’s natural for back to school to be a shock to the system for everyone, especially if your child has been enjoying leisurely mornings over the summer. So, if possible, start to ease children back into things a few days beforehand. Ensure the basics are in place so they can manage the change in routine and their emotions effectively.
So, get them to bed a bit earlier and if necessary, get them up a little earlier a few days beforehand. Make sure they have good food inside them (no massive bags of Haribo the night before!), and that uniforms, bags and pencil cases are all ready to go so there’s no mad dash on the first day (note to self!).
If your child is going to school for the first time (a big step for you all!) you could practice the first day routine so they know what to expect.
Make sure you create some time and space to spend some relaxed time with your child before they go back to school. Check in with them and see how they feel about the start of the new term.
If anxieties surface, encourage them to talk about how they’re feeling and try to get to the bottom of why. Just doing this can often make children feel better – most of us feel a sense of relief having shared our worries with someone supportive and quite often that makes them disappear!
If possible or necessary, encourage your child to come up with strategies to help them deal with their worries. For example if they’re worried about a particular child being mean to them, discuss how they could deal with it if it happens. Having a practical plan can really help children feel that they know what to do if something happens. You could write both the worries and how to deal with them somewhere to refer back to if helpful.
While it’s important to talk to children about any worries they might have, it’s also really helpful to encourage them to focus on the positives – the things about school they are looking forward. This is helping them to understand that how they think about something can make a difference. It might also help to gently teach them that doing things we feel nervous about is both necessary in life and actually something to be encouraged.
It might be that they’ll enjoy seeing their friends, or get to play their favourite sport or with their favourite toy, or even that the school lunches are way better than your cooking! Whatever it is, find something that they can look forward to and help them to focus their attention on that.
Having something to look forward to as a family can also help. For example, you could plan a day trip at the weekend or to go to their favourite lunch spot. Do remember that they may well be tired after the first week back and you don’t want to have one of those ‘WE-ARE-SUPPOSED-TO-BE-HAVING-FUN!’ times (!). The important thing is to just some time together doing something a bit special. It will give you all something to look forward to and provide a great opportunity to chat about the first week back at school. It could even simply be a special weekend breakfast…pancakes anyone?! 😉
If your child gets anxious it can be really helpful to teach them some basic breathing exercises to help to calm them down – just some simple deep breaths will help. Your child’s willingness to do this will depend on their age, however basic calming breathing exercises can really help us all to stay calm if we’re starting to feel nervous or worried. Primary children really enjoy being taught ‘big belly breathing’ and it’s something you can do together.
Big Belly Breathing
If your child is particularly anxious,you can read more about dealing with anxiety (written for adults but applicable to children) in this post I wrote earlier in the year. There are also some nice exercises in this article you could try with them.
If you child is particularly worried about something and it’s , it’s usually best to let the school know sooner rather than later. As a form tutor and class teacher I was always happy to speak to parents about their child and wanted to help where I could.
Yes, teachers are busy at the start of the year, but good teachers are never too busy to talk about a child’s worries and always want the best for the children in their care. A quick email or a chat will help them to understand what might be going on with your child and allow them to help if needed, or just keep an eye on things. It will make you feel better too!
Pancakes have long been a favourite breakfast in our house. Once the preserve of lazy weekends and holidays, they’re now a more regular feature.
I have one of these pancake makers and it is without doubt my favourite gadget (although my new found love of pressure washing means it’s no longer a one horse race!) and I don’t even bother putting it back in the cupboard anymore.
The types of pancakes I make these days has changed along with my eating habits. Gone are the french crepes (mine always slightly rubbery!) and the fluffy Scottish pancakes I ate bucketloads of as a child courtesy of my gran, and in are these healthier alternatives. I think they are pretty delicious and they are really easy to make. Once you have the basics you can try any combination of ingredients and flavours. The amounts given are approximate – I usually just chuck it all in, adjusting the amount of milk to get the right consistency.
Of course, the toppings you choose can influence how ‘healthy’ these pancakes are. My staple is berries and yoghurt, but you can add maple syrup or honey, bacon, peanut butter if you like. I almost always add a sprinkling of cinnamon t00 – it makes them taste sweeter I think without adding any sugar and cinnamon has been shown to possibly have some health benefits.
These are the ones that the rest of the family are most likely to eat happily. They’re a good transition from white flour/sugar etc to a healthier alternative. The ‘jam’ in this picture is made from frozen raspberries heated with a teaspoon of water and honey.
Why they are good for your brain (and body!)
Oats are full of great stuff, as I mentioned in the last ‘overnight oats’ post. Their magnesium in particular is great for your brain and has been shown to have a positive impact on symptoms of depression. They also contain plenty of fibre to prevent any peaks and troughs in your blood sugar levels, calcium, iron, phosphorus, folic acid.
Eggs are great for protein, so I usually add another egg than you might otherwise need. Combined with the oats above, they really will help to keep your blood sugar (and your mood) stable throughout the morning. Eggs are a ‘complete’ source of protein as they contain all eight essential amino acids that we need to get from our diet. They also contain B vitamins which can slow cognitive decline (especially when combined with Omega 3s – see the protein power pancakes below!) and selenium, low levels of which studies suggest may be associated with reduced cognitive function. They also pack in vitamins A, D, E and K and a host of minerals like zinc, iron and copper. So, eggs really are a great food to eat anytime!
About a cup’s worth of porridge oats
1 teaspoon baking powder
A glug of your choice of milk (if needed – I usually use almond, but whatever I have in the fridge)
coconut oil (if needed)
So these are a bit more hardcore, but still delicious I think! These are the pancakes I eat most often and they’re particularly great after I’ve been to the gym as they contain extra protein to help build my muscles! They are denser than the previous pancakes but so good for you!
Why they are good for your brain (and body!)
The base is the same as the pancakes above, so all the goodness still applies, but you get even more with these ones!
A mugful of oats
a tablespoon of ground flax seeds
1/2 scoop of hemp protein powder
1/2 scoop maca powder (optional)
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 banana (optional)
A swig of milk (if needed)
coconut oil (if needed)
So these are pancakes use the basic mix but with a chocolatey twist. The cacao is not as sweet as cocoa powder and don’t expect them to taste of sugar-filled chocolate, but the raw form of cacao is bursting with health benefits. I love them with a load of berries, a drizzle of honey and yoghurt sprinkled with cinnamon.
Why they are good for your brain (and body!)
Cacao is the star of the show here (you get all the other benefits of the ingredients listed above plus this superpower!). It is a fantastic source of magnesium which promotes a healthy brain and nervous system. It also contains iron, potassium, copper, zinc, manganese and selenium. B1, 2, 3, 5, 9, C, E to name but a few! The famed flavonoids that cacao contains have shown promise in some studies of reducing the risk of alzheimer’s disease. Cacao also contains Phenylethylamine (PEA), though to be responsible for why we reach for chocolate to boost our mood (and possibly it’s association with love!). Studies have linked PEA to a decrease in depression and ADHD, so it’s no wonder these pancakes put me in a good mood in the morning! Even I find them a little bitter, so you may need to get out the maple syrup or honey for these ones !
1 mug of flour (you can use oats as above, or coconut or buckwheat or a combination)
1-2 tablespoons of cacao depending on how chocolatey you like them
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 banana (optional)
A swig of milk (you’ll need more if you use coconut flour)
coconut oil (maybe)
If you want to have extra fluff, you can separate the eggs, whisk up the egg whites and then fold them in at the end. I can rarely be bothered though!
So there you go, pancakes 3 different ways to get you going with pancake power! Do let me know if you try them and meanwhile I’m off to try to perfect my own matcha pancakes!
A few people have asked me to write some posts about food, so I thought I’d share a series of ideas for breakfasts as a start. I’ve been posting my breakfasts on Instagram too recently if you’re interested – I’m doing a little experiment to see if this makes me eat more mindfully as a recent study suggests!
I love having a good breakfast – it’s a great start to the day. The breakfasts I’ll share are all pretty quick and easy to prepare and, most importantly, are good for your brain (and body!). Good mood food at it’s best! First up today is one of my favourites for this time of the year; a super-quick summery delight that’s great on the go…
This is a lovely start to the day and particularly good if you know you’ll be in a rush in the morning but want something decent to fill you up, or take with you to work.
Getting your oats is very good for you! Oats are a slow-release carb and their soluble fibre helps prevent any peaks and troughs in blood sugar which can play havoc with your concentration, mood and energy levels. They also contain magnesium which has been shown to have a positive impact on symptoms of depression.
Chia seeds are a great source of Omega-3 fatty acids which play a vital role in brain function. They also contain protein, slow-release carbs and many vitamins and minerals (magnesium, zinc, iron to name 3) which are good for your brain. Flax seeds are also a rich source of those Omega-3s and some studies suggest may help to alleviate the symptoms of depression, so sprinkling some of these on is a good choice.
Sunflower and pumpkin seeds contain loads of vitamins and minerals that your brain and body love. Both are great sources of magnesium and sunflower seeds also contain vitamin E and selenium which studies suggest may help to prevent cognitive decline. Pumpkin seeds are high in zinc which is important for memory function and contain plenty of B vitamins and tryptophan, which is the precurser to the ‘happy hormone’ serotonin.
Coconut is very high in fibre, vitamins C, E, B1, B3, B5 and B6 and multiple minerals including iron, selenium, calcium and magnesium. Adding some flesh (dessicated coconut in this case) and also the milk gives some really good health benefits and also makes these taste creamy and pretty darn delicious. If you don’t like it, just leave it out and use almond milk, or another milk of your choice instead.
Berries are great for adding sweetness and they are filled with antioxidants and other vitamins and minerals. Some studies suggest there are specific cognitive benefits of berries too, possibly preventing cognitive and motor decline related to age and this study found eating blueberries may reverse memory loss.
So, here’s how to make this great breakfast – it takes about 5 minutes in the evening.
1. Take a cereal bowl (or a jar if you need them on the move) and add some oats to the bottom of the bowl.
2. Then a mixture of seeds on top. I usually use some combination of chia seeds, desiccated coconut, ground flax seeds, sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds – whatever I have in my jars.
3. Add some cinnamon, whatever berries you have (I usually use a mix of blueberries, raspberries and strawberries), a good lug of coconut milk (or your choice). If you like, you could add a drizzle of honey or maple syrup too.
4. Give it all a stir, cover and leave in the fridge overnight.
5. In the morning all you need to do it take them out, put them in a posh glass dish if you like, add some more berries on the top if you like and a spoonful of bio yoghurt (I usually use homemade coconut) if you like. Seriously yum!
Tip: I often use frozen berries as they tend to be cheaper and last longer. Just stir them in and by morning they’ve defrosted to a delicious mush in your oats.
Depending on your perspective, risk taking may be something you’re familiar and happy with, or something you balk at. Our personalities, circumstances and life phase sets our attitude to risk and whether we are likely to take a risk. Of course it also depends on what the risk is.
So, what are ‘risks’?
There are many possible ‘risks’ we encounter in our lives; the risks we’re talking about here are not destructive or reckless risk-taking behaviours that are dangerous to your own or anyone else’s well-being; rather they are the roads that appear before us and that we ‘could’ travel down or the risks that we ‘could’ take to follow our dreams – if we just weren’t so fearful / comfortable / secure / stuck. Risks are about making your ideas and dreams into a plan and then a reality.
It could be changing career path from a field in which you are well-established but feel it is not fulfilling you as much as it once did to a new one that you feel more passionate about, or even just moving jobs within the same field. It could be finally trying a new activity that you’ve been wanting to for ages but have been putting off, or travelling somewhere new, perhaps on your own.
Essentially, risks are about putting yourself out there, taking the plunge and going for it!
Depending on your outlook, the risks we mean here are either the secret keys to life’s big adventure, or they are to be avoided as they rock your serene boat way too much. So why should you take risks in life – and how can they make you happier?
If you always do the same thing, with the same people and in the same places, over time your viewpoint may narrow. Going to different places, meeting different people and trying new things means you find out different perspectives and ways of doing things.
Dislike your boss? Well, a new one might be better – ok, they could be worse too, but they’ll be different and you’ll certainly learn things along the way. Always go to the same coffee shops? Well, how about you try a different place? You might find much cooler, funkier places to work where you’ll meet some great people who’ll become your friends (I’m writing this in one of my very favourite coffee shops that I didn’t know existed this time last year).
Fancy visiting a new place but not sure what it’ll be like travelling on your own? Well get the guide books out, ask around and book those tickets! This was also me last summer…and while I can’t guarantee you’ll have the time of your life – you might (I did!) and you’ll definitely broaden your perspective about the world. There’s nothing like travel to make you see your life in a very different light.
Many of us have blips in our self-confidence throughout our lives for one reason or another. At those times it’s tempting to hide away from the world and retreat. While this can help us feel safe for a little while, if it goes on too long, it can be an ever-decreasing circle. If you can put yourself out there and push your boundaries even in very small ways, you can find out new things about yourself, for example what you like and dislike, how you want to live your life, and very definitely what makes you happy.
For example, when I first started lifting weights in the gym (and it took me a while of watching others do it to pluck up the courage), I felt extremely self-conscious. However, I got myself a personal training session, got past the awkwardness and now it’s an essential part of my daily routine. And when I fell off the horse due to illness, I missed it terribly. I realised it makes me happy – I like the changes it’s made to my body, my mind and confidence. There’s something about being stronger that makes you feel stronger in every area of your life. Liking and believing in yourself really is one of the true keys to happiness and being quietly confident about who you are brings a great sense of peace and clarity to your life.
I’m a big fan of positive psychology and according to positive psychology studies – and many other philosophies and religions – living a meaningful and purposeful life is one of the keys to happiness.
Meaning and purpose of course mean different things to us all. It may be finding your ‘calling’ in your job, home life or community. It could be from the way you choose to live your life and in your interactions with others. Often people find their purpose in giving or contributing to others in some way and there is a lot of evidence that can make a positive difference to how happy you feel.
I’ll write another time about my experience of socialising a hearing dog puppy, and I wouldn’t say that training dogs is my calling in life, but certainly it’s helped to give it a little boost of purpose and meaning at a time I was feeling a bit lost and I do feel that I feel I have found my ‘true calling’ recently…so perhaps it’s no coincidence!
It was a risk to me taking on a hearing dog pup – could I fit it into my already busy life? How will we all be when the pup has to go on to the next stage of training? (easy answer = sad but very proud!). BUT, it’s a small risk I’m so glad that I have taken. I’ve met so many lovely people and learnt so much as a result of having her (and she makes me beam with happiness every single morning when she wakes up with the waggiest tail and backside I have ever seen, so that in itself makes me happy!).
On a professional note, it was a huge risk when 6 years ago I left the security of teaching to start my own training company. I’ve been freelance for that length of time and while at times I’ve really missed teaching pupils, I have learnt SO much, had so many different experiences and been able to become involved in many different projects because I am not a classroom teacher. So, yes, a big risk, but those of us who are entrepreneurs, being ready and willing to jump is part of the deal.
Indeed, I’ve just given up the security of a lovely consultancy role which I really enjoyed but needed a bit much travelling for my wellbeing and I’ve decided to fully pursue a new EdTech startup I’ve been toying with for a while, which fits with the purpose I feel I’ve found in my life (I’ll share more details soon!) Scary yes, but I also know from experience it will make me healthier and happier!
So, there you go, 3 reasons risks can make you happier. What risk could you take today?